The Pursuit of Grace: Interact with Love and Kindness
Grace arrives in motion. Kindness is the ignition.
The Pursuit of Grace is how I execute on Steps 11 and 12 of the Twelve Step recovery journey—not as a ritual, but as a lived strategy. It’s the drivetrain of conscious contact with God, or your Higher Power, and it broadcasts through three core channels: the Formal, the Semi-Formal, and the Everyday.
Whether you find grace in Mass, AA meetings, or a conversation with the service station clerk, these channels only work if you follow three non-negotiable rules of engagement.
The first rule is: Interact with Love and Kindness. Here it is.
No matter which channel you’re broadcasting on—Formal, Semi-Formal, or Everyday—this rule is non-negotiable: Interact with Love and Kindness.
This is the ignition switch of spiritual velocity. It’s how grace gets kinetic. You don’t wait for grace to arrive like a parcel from heaven. You move. You mix it up. You reach out. You respond with authenticity. You show up with love and kindness—not because it’s strategic, but because it’s real.
Pop Culture Fossils: Grace in Motion
Omar Little (The Wire)
He robs drug dealers, but never civilians. He lives by a code. When he spares someone or takes a favor, he expects honor in return. Omar’s grace is gritty, but it’s motion-based. He moves with a moral compass—even in chaos.
The Wire was the second DVD box set Alison and I ever bought. The first was House. For those who don’t know what a “DVD set” is—it was the binge-watch method before streaming. You couldn’t get HBO in Australia, and Netflix was years away from even being an idea. So on winter Sundays in northern Tasmania, Alison and I would load one disc at a time into our deep, non-flat screen TV and binge-watch The Wire, set in Baltimore. Omar became part of our spiritual vocabulary—his code, his contradictions, his kinetic grace.
Vito Corleone (The Godfather)
“Someday, and that day may never come…” Vito trades favors like currency. His empire runs on reciprocity. But love and kindness? That’s not the currency. His ledger is tactical, not spiritual.
The Widow (Mark 12:41–44)
She gives two small coins—half of all she has. Jesus says she gave more than all the wealthy men in robes. Why? Because she gave from motion, not margin. She gave with love, not leverage.
Banco de Spirit – The Ledger Trap
Here’s the trap: you start keeping score. You give a favor, expect a return. You pray, expect a result. You tithe, expect a blessing. You become a low-end accounting clerk at Banco de Spirit—logging spiritual transactions, waiting for divine dividends.
But grace doesn’t balance books. It breaks them.
The Widow didn’t keep a ledger. She emptied it. That’s the doctrine. That’s the fossil. That’s the motion.
Recovery Application
For the addict, this is the first spiritual rehab exercise:
- Move with kindness. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Don’t keep a ledger. Just show up.
- Grace will find you—not because you earned it, but because you moved.
Rule of Engagement #1: Interact with Love and Kindness
- Spiritual Velocity: Kindness creates motion. Motion invites grace.
- Warning: Don’t become a clerk. Don’t trade kindness for credit.
- Practice: Reach out. Respond. Repeat.
About Jason Bresnehan
Jason is a fixer—of businesses, of broken momentum, and occasionally of entire spiritual frameworks gone sideways. He speaks fluent boardroom and AA, deploys Catholic doctrine with the subtlety of a scalpel, and isn’t afraid to lace his insights with both war-room metaphors and dad-sermon tenderness.
Founder of Evahan, a consultancy built on the idea that legacy and liquidity don’t need to fight, Jason draws on 30 years of commercial grit, tactical leadership, and emotional radar to help people rebuild what entropy took. He works with companies, communities, and recovery misfits alike—often using the same principles to sort both cap tables and chaotic lives.
Jason draws deep inspiration from historical figures who got results—especially those who led from the margins, built with scarce resources, and refused to be shackled by conventional wisdom. He’s known for assembling unorthodox teams of passionate experts to solve complex problems in chaotic environments. Whether in boardrooms, recovery communities, or legacy disputes, Jason’s approach is rooted in common purpose, tactical innovation, and the belief that clarity thrives when paradigms are challenged.
A strong advocate for freedom, limited government, and enterprise-driven progress, Jason also draws deeply from his personal recovery journey—an experience that reshaped his life and fuels his commitment to growth, contribution, and principled living. Through writing, speaking, and service, he continues to learn, share, and speak with purpose.
I can be engaged (on a remunerated or volunteer basis) to sit on Boards, Committees, Advisory and Reference Group Panels, and to speak to Business, Community, and Youth groups. I’m also open to providing comment to media on topics where I have relevant experience or insight. Please feel free to make contact.